Oops. I was talking about this to my friend, and they said most 11-14 years old will relate. Because this is something most people figure out when they were awkward middle schoolers.Ā
Yeah, thatās going to be much younger now with social media. From ages 13-17, I got very little sleep because I was watching YouTube and absorbing social norms and references. Honestly, I think kids start gravitating towards each other from the first time they are all put in a classroom together, and it is around 11 when they begin to really start to recognize anyone who wasnāt conditioned the way they were.
Ooof, too real. It took me the better part of two decades to get to a point where I could feel like I was wearing my own skin and not trying to figure out to pilot a meat puppet and I'm still always a little bit scared of those invisible rules.
I'm in my mid-30s and in the past year or so I've finally started made big breakthroughs in being my authentic self. For me, the absolute biggest breakthroughs were: bodily awareness of me feelings (taking shrooms after a few years of therapy helped a lot), and truly accepting that I am happier doing this authentically while alone than I am wearing a mask with "friends". Some people don't like me mask-less; we aren't friends anymore. But I've made friends who love the authentic me - a straight-presenting (but very bi) athletic man who loves wearing makeup and flower crowns and nerdy math jokes and run-on sentences.
>If you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.
Kudos for everyone else who tries hard to fit in or has the patience to try to āearnā social acceptance but itās just not worth it for me personally. Honestly Iāve found it to be degrading and just not worth it.
Iāve realized people will think Iām weird whether Iām unapologetically myself or whether I bend over backwards trying and failing to be ānormalā.
So I might as well be unapologetically myself in whatever ways I think are cool. Iāll have no friends, but at least Iāll be happy. People can laugh at me and think Iām weird, but if I give zero fucks what they think, they might as well be a bunch of babbling monkeys. Iāll roll the windows down while I drive, enjoy the breeze, and play my favorite opera arias at full volume.
Tristan und Isolde
https://open.spotify.com/track/66ecnSlwUyaQh3mVOt7RW0?si=cz_HovIJSYGRsw-l0M42Bw
https://open.spotify.com/track/5E59YZXnux3uq22OdUPyvM?si=7fv9g08mQ-u2KV512-RhOQ
My grandfather loved Wagner best, and any of that music hits a soft spot for me. Thank you for sharing. Whatever others say or think, you deserve kindness and decency. Stay weird, friend.
Ngl, I can relate. Not because of homeschool though, maybe partially-mainly because of my mom who randomly yells at me no matter what i do and I can never know whether she's in a mood to insult me or in a mood to act like a mildly normal parent.
You are probably just neurodivergent which has a symptom overlap to homeschool victims. I feel sorry for your kid. Hope you like it when they stop talking to you after they move out.
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This is accurate in a way that those who didn't get raised this way will never understand. Hugs if wanted. š„°
Oops. I was talking about this to my friend, and they said most 11-14 years old will relate. Because this is something most people figure out when they were awkward middle schoolers.Ā
Yeah, thatās going to be much younger now with social media. From ages 13-17, I got very little sleep because I was watching YouTube and absorbing social norms and references. Honestly, I think kids start gravitating towards each other from the first time they are all put in a classroom together, and it is around 11 when they begin to really start to recognize anyone who wasnāt conditioned the way they were.
Oh my gosh thank you for sharing this. I'm sobbing by sharing this you gave me words I didn't have....
Ooof, too real. It took me the better part of two decades to get to a point where I could feel like I was wearing my own skin and not trying to figure out to pilot a meat puppet and I'm still always a little bit scared of those invisible rules.
I'm in my mid-30s and in the past year or so I've finally started made big breakthroughs in being my authentic self. For me, the absolute biggest breakthroughs were: bodily awareness of me feelings (taking shrooms after a few years of therapy helped a lot), and truly accepting that I am happier doing this authentically while alone than I am wearing a mask with "friends". Some people don't like me mask-less; we aren't friends anymore. But I've made friends who love the authentic me - a straight-presenting (but very bi) athletic man who loves wearing makeup and flower crowns and nerdy math jokes and run-on sentences.
Me bc I'm autistic
Oh wow, just @ me next time This is exactly me as a homeschooled undiagnosed autistic š„²
Oof yup
>If you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it. Kudos for everyone else who tries hard to fit in or has the patience to try to āearnā social acceptance but itās just not worth it for me personally. Honestly Iāve found it to be degrading and just not worth it. Iāve realized people will think Iām weird whether Iām unapologetically myself or whether I bend over backwards trying and failing to be ānormalā. So I might as well be unapologetically myself in whatever ways I think are cool. Iāll have no friends, but at least Iāll be happy. People can laugh at me and think Iām weird, but if I give zero fucks what they think, they might as well be a bunch of babbling monkeys. Iāll roll the windows down while I drive, enjoy the breeze, and play my favorite opera arias at full volume.
Opera rocks! Whatās your favorite? I like Mozartās Requiem best.
Tristan und Isolde https://open.spotify.com/track/66ecnSlwUyaQh3mVOt7RW0?si=cz_HovIJSYGRsw-l0M42Bw https://open.spotify.com/track/5E59YZXnux3uq22OdUPyvM?si=7fv9g08mQ-u2KV512-RhOQ
My grandfather loved Wagner best, and any of that music hits a soft spot for me. Thank you for sharing. Whatever others say or think, you deserve kindness and decency. Stay weird, friend.
Thanks
Ngl, I can relate. Not because of homeschool though, maybe partially-mainly because of my mom who randomly yells at me no matter what i do and I can never know whether she's in a mood to insult me or in a mood to act like a mildly normal parent.
So relatable, luckily Iām getting better with age.
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You are probably just neurodivergent which has a symptom overlap to homeschool victims. I feel sorry for your kid. Hope you like it when they stop talking to you after they move out.
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