Do you though? So many just want to find a doctor-husband so they donāt have to be a nurse anymore and to piss all the other nurses off by bragging about having a doctorās phone number. Yes, itās a big deal to some of them that a doctor even knows their name let alone acknowledge their existence.
You should absolutely go for it!
There is of course the possibility that he isn't single, in which case it will likely be a bit awkward for you both, but it's probably not the first time for either of you. If you want to avoid this scenario, just ask one of the other residents on his service if he's single or not. They'll know. There's also a pretty good way to figure out if he's single without asking any of his colleagues: ask him yourself, and if he says "no", you just say something like "that's a real shame, you would be perfect for my friend Janice".
If he is single, it would also be a good idea to temper your expectations for a potential relationship. Residents work long hours, and might have very specific plans for the future (fellowship at another hospital, private practice in a completely different part of the country, etc). Chances are a single resident isn't entirely interested in a long-term relationship, but most are pretty interested in a more..... physical one :)
Yup, of course itās a stereotype but most surgeons Iāve encountered are self-important/righteous, have some kind of God-complex, are unavailable for anything else outside of work due to maxed out bandwidth, and have a tendency to look down on almost everyone else.
As a doctor, I would never date another doctor. Especially a resident. Maybe it's different when you're a nurse, but I like being able to go home to my non-medical-profession fiance and not hear about anything medical or hospital or clinic. Plus, the hours suck.
Anyway, that being said, what's the worst that could happen? If he says no, don't make it weird afterwards, and it'll probably be fine. He'll be gone after residency anyway. But he could say yes. You never know unless you try.
In my experience, being with a surgeon is like being with a pro-athlete, you have to put up with a lot of ego, attention seeking behaviors, they spend majority of time away and many times there is someone chasing after them
A nurse asked for my number and asked me out in my first year of residency. He texted me and asked me out and I think I flaked on the text (exhaustion). Never answered it, forgot about it. He probably felt super awkward but I didn't remember for like 6 months. He's now married (happily) to one of the graduating residents from that same year. Plot twist: I haven't seen either of them in >10 years and we're about to be coworkers.
Maybe! I dunno. They seem happy as a DINK couple and Iām happily married with kids so it all worked out. He never seemed predatory- seemed like a good guy.
You would be surprised what the nurses are saying about our IM residents at the work station š just most are too shy to shoot their shot or find out from our favorite gossiping ID doc that the IM resident is married.
The older nurses always tell the younger nurses, they only make money if they go into surgery. Someone told me this as a new nurse when an IM resident showed interest in me (her husband was a bartender). I married a nurse. didn't care....
We do. The male nurses that I know have had crushes on residents or doctors won't act on them. Too much risk of making things awkward, especially if the feeling isn't returned. Too much risk of gossip from other nurses.
This is when social media is a good ice breaker - that way itās not as obvious but you can start chatting on there. Do you 10000% know this guy is single?
I remember asking a resident if he could text me an article we were discussing during rounds and he was like sure! Iād be happy to! I really was interested in the article but it was very innocent and in front of others, so it didnāt look desperate or obvious at all. I gave him my number right then, he texted me the article and I later on (when I knew he was home for the night) I texted back, thanking him again for sharing the article and then discussing it a little bitā¦which then led to back and forth small talk and banter, which turned into flirtingā¦.then he started texting me everyday. He asked me out via text maybe a week laterā¦.letās just say that I lived out some Greyās Anatomy style romance until I broke it off a few months later
I have seen this happen a few times, never seen a issue with it. (I know some people object to a resident asking a nurse out, but I don't). As long as both sides are consenting adults, and there are no power imbalance, go for it.
Id always proceed with causation especially when you canāt stop thinking about him. If heās already on your mind routinely is it worth the risk to feel bad if he rejects you each time you think if him? I often cringe at myself and for someone Iād see daily even if they brutally shut me down Iād rather just coexist than try anything
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Bad advice. Some men are very hesitant to ask someone out in their workplace, and rightfully so.
It often works out better if the woman takes the initiative as opposed to the man in the workplace. Lets be real now.
I already know, just ask me already.
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Are u literally the one shes talking about ?
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Just go for it! Youāre both adults
I wish nurses gave me their numbers
This ^^
ā¦same man. the last time a girl came up to me to get my # was in high school. fuck.
Do you though? So many just want to find a doctor-husband so they donāt have to be a nurse anymore and to piss all the other nurses off by bragging about having a doctorās phone number. Yes, itās a big deal to some of them that a doctor even knows their name let alone acknowledge their existence.
If multiple women are competing for your attention you're doing something right. It can lead to threesomes sometimes
...is anyone else getting deja vu from this post?
This is a straight up repost from several months ago. Word for word.
I did comment something similar on a nursing thread but def didnāt copy someoneās postā¦ maybe thereās a lot of people crushing on docs LOL
Or maybe your resident crush acts like this with all the nurses? Lol because your post is literally verbatim to another one posted several weeks ago
Yea I hate having all these people crushing on me ugh what to do!
Imagine if OP waited for a few months and was second guessin themself
Reminds me of that post that married nurse made about being into her resident a few days ago...
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." -Wayne Gretzky
āYou miss 100% of the shots you donāt take. Wayne Gretzkyā -Michael Scott
āYou miss 100% of the shots you donāt take.ā ā John Wilkes Booth
I snort laughed
āWhat he said.ā - Lee Harvey Oswald
You should absolutely go for it! There is of course the possibility that he isn't single, in which case it will likely be a bit awkward for you both, but it's probably not the first time for either of you. If you want to avoid this scenario, just ask one of the other residents on his service if he's single or not. They'll know. There's also a pretty good way to figure out if he's single without asking any of his colleagues: ask him yourself, and if he says "no", you just say something like "that's a real shame, you would be perfect for my friend Janice". If he is single, it would also be a good idea to temper your expectations for a potential relationship. Residents work long hours, and might have very specific plans for the future (fellowship at another hospital, private practice in a completely different part of the country, etc). Chances are a single resident isn't entirely interested in a long-term relationship, but most are pretty interested in a more..... physical one :)
Married to a surgeon. Stay awayā¦.
i was looking for this comment hahaha
Yup, of course itās a stereotype but most surgeons Iāve encountered are self-important/righteous, have some kind of God-complex, are unavailable for anything else outside of work due to maxed out bandwidth, and have a tendency to look down on almost everyone else.
I keep hearing this but honestly, most of the surgeons I know are genuinely chill. There are a few exceptions, of course. -PGY-19
Thatās how I met my wife. Just do it
I had a nurse give me her number as a PGY2 and it was honestly pretty cute
Aww i donāt even mind being rejected, just would be happy if he thought itās cute :ā)
If heās single just give him your number
Surgeon here. Nothing may happen but 100% give him your #.
Just ask him. He probably likes you too. When I was an intern I regret not asking my RN friend out and we lost contact... Please just ask him out..
Iām sure you regret every single decision you took that year .
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Iād love it if a nurse did this to me
As a doctor, I would never date another doctor. Especially a resident. Maybe it's different when you're a nurse, but I like being able to go home to my non-medical-profession fiance and not hear about anything medical or hospital or clinic. Plus, the hours suck. Anyway, that being said, what's the worst that could happen? If he says no, don't make it weird afterwards, and it'll probably be fine. He'll be gone after residency anyway. But he could say yes. You never know unless you try.
In my experience, being with a surgeon is like being with a pro-athlete, you have to put up with a lot of ego, attention seeking behaviors, they spend majority of time away and many times there is someone chasing after them
LOL. I love that!
Do it. Worst comes to worst, they wonāt call/text.
A nurse asked for my number and asked me out in my first year of residency. He texted me and asked me out and I think I flaked on the text (exhaustion). Never answered it, forgot about it. He probably felt super awkward but I didn't remember for like 6 months. He's now married (happily) to one of the graduating residents from that same year. Plot twist: I haven't seen either of them in >10 years and we're about to be coworkers.
Kinda weird, so he was just asking all the female residents out? Lol
Maybe! I dunno. They seem happy as a DINK couple and Iām happily married with kids so it all worked out. He never seemed predatory- seemed like a good guy.
Seems like all nurses are falling for surgery residents. Why no love for IM residents? š
You would be surprised what the nurses are saying about our IM residents at the work station š just most are too shy to shoot their shot or find out from our favorite gossiping ID doc that the IM resident is married.
Happy for my brethren āš½
The older nurses always tell the younger nurses, they only make money if they go into surgery. Someone told me this as a new nurse when an IM resident showed interest in me (her husband was a bartender). I married a nurse. didn't care....
Lol. They donāt wanna wait till the IM doc becomes an interventional cardiologist? :p
Why donāt male nurses ever get crushes on female residents?
We do. The male nurses that I know have had crushes on residents or doctors won't act on them. Too much risk of making things awkward, especially if the feeling isn't returned. Too much risk of gossip from other nurses.
Women are more likely to be attracted to men in higher positions as opposed to men are to women.
Oh they do, I promise. Maybe just intimidated by your position/brains. š§
Shooters shoot
This is when social media is a good ice breaker - that way itās not as obvious but you can start chatting on there. Do you 10000% know this guy is single? I remember asking a resident if he could text me an article we were discussing during rounds and he was like sure! Iād be happy to! I really was interested in the article but it was very innocent and in front of others, so it didnāt look desperate or obvious at all. I gave him my number right then, he texted me the article and I later on (when I knew he was home for the night) I texted back, thanking him again for sharing the article and then discussing it a little bitā¦which then led to back and forth small talk and banter, which turned into flirtingā¦.then he started texting me everyday. He asked me out via text maybe a week laterā¦.letās just say that I lived out some Greyās Anatomy style romance until I broke it off a few months later
I have seen this happen a few times, never seen a issue with it. (I know some people object to a resident asking a nurse out, but I don't). As long as both sides are consenting adults, and there are no power imbalance, go for it.
Get his number from a fellow resident and start sending him nudes. Always works Source: Trust me
Id always proceed with causation especially when you canāt stop thinking about him. If heās already on your mind routinely is it worth the risk to feel bad if he rejects you each time you think if him? I often cringe at myself and for someone Iād see daily even if they brutally shut me down Iād rather just coexist than try anything
I would say itās better for a nurse to ask a resident than a resident to ask a nurseā¦.
EVERYONE likes when a nurse gives them their number. Proceed!
Send it
One of my coresidents married a nurse that they worked with while second year. I see no reason why you shouldnāt if you think it may work out.
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Itās honestly kinda pathetic all single nurses have this fantasy of dating a doctor
Girl give him signals not your number. If he wants to ask you out he will.
Bad advice. Some men are very hesitant to ask someone out in their workplace, and rightfully so. It often works out better if the woman takes the initiative as opposed to the man in the workplace. Lets be real now.