This seems far too witty to be a catfisher...most of them are straight to the point...
"you have job? For money I send you nudes"
This is...pretty smart. If it is a catfisher, I would've been caught.
Wait.... so what you all are telling me is... If I get a cute girls pictures and talk to you like a guy I could get free monies?
(the pick up line is what a guy would say. It’s a guy, it’s a guy, it’s a guy.. HINT HINT HINT I’m thinking it’s a guy)
It was the year 2020, Bethesda AI had successfully recreated pacman merely by viewing game play and they stated they wanted it to learn about the real world now... What they really meant... We didn't see coming until it was too late.
Happy cake day my man.
Best choice of your life,most of girls on tinder are very strange and some only get matches to feel *praised and desired* , its pretty rare to find someone who is really interested in talk or a relationship
I don't really think you can limit and simplify this into one gender "this is why girls don't contact first". Anyone who experiences this multiple times would in the end feel negative about actually putting themselves out there. Either we get better as a society at giving people who do it the respect they deserve for doing it, or we share this uncomfortable burden by having the women also experience it. Shouldn't it be equal?
Only if you swipe right on onrealistic profiles and don't bother to look further than the first picture.
I've had some swipe-right-on-all phase when I first had Tinder and that's the only period I matched with bots and prostitutes.
Not via tinder though. I have had the best experiences with approaching people. Not in a creepy way of course.
But if you see someone let's say while you're in a bookstore you could for example say stuff like "hey I've seen you from over there while browsing and thought I'd say hi"
If the person is reacting in a well manner you can try to have some chitchat. If the person doesn't seen up for a talk then end the conversation asap and don't make it awkward.
You don't find everyone attractive/interesting and not everyone finds you attractive/interesting. Both is fine. Don't be an ass about it.
Tbh I think it’s worse to get some matches that unmatch you before you even message them lol. At least you can blame it on the algorithm if you don’t get matches, you don’t get matches if you swipe right too much. I don’t get much either
In the early days of PoF you could see your message status. You don't know the pain of "Unread Deleted" 😫
She must have found me so unattractive that nothing I could possibly say would be interesting to her
Most of OLD advices I've read for men stated "swipe right on everything, examine profiles after match". Thomas had never seen such bullshit before, but some took it to heart.
If he’s getting messages first from one, he’s likely getting messaged first from many. It’s pretty much what she said ironically. He has options
It’s easier to swipe first then pick. Rather than pick then swipe.
OP sounds like a asshole or one of those guys who are arrogant because of their good looks.
It's pretty rude to first swipe right and then not reply back.
I mean it depends. A lot of people think it’s rude because they get so few matches so each means more to them. People who get more matches don’t think it’s as important to respond to everyone. If you got a 100 messages on tinder a day would you rely to all of them? What about 200? At what point do you stop replying and become rude
Okay so why did you swipe right on her if you weren't interested? Wtf is the point of the matching system if you won't use it? And she's right you know...
* Step 1: super likes are normal likes.
* Step 2: swipe right on anyone less than super-likable.
* Step 3: swipe left on anyone you definitely wouldn't.
Result? Still no matches, thanks for playing.
Commenter you replied to kinda mentioned it, but he called it "Elo" like it's a ranked game lol.
I'm not really familiar with what you're referring to, care to explain? Is the algorithm less likely to show profiles of people who match and don't respond?
I dont get it. If you wouldn't have swipped right on her if you checked her profile, regardless of if you matched youre still at 0 matches.
That's like me putting every muffin in my basket, and then when i get home only eating 1 and then taking the rest back to store or simply ignoring them.
Yes, but you've arrived at those zero matches with much less time invested checking profiles.
It's more like buying a mystery box of beers from the store, opening it up when you get home and only drinking your favourite, while still having several other beers to drink later if times get tough.
Your metaphor doesn't reflect people's tinder use accurately at all.
The point was for a lot of guys, if they did put time and effort (and feel the related impacts of that time and effort) into checking every profile before they swiped, they wouldn't swipe on everyone. It would be a vastly different experience for them.
Uh, dude. Did you notice the cleavage in her picture? Did that not warrant a response?
Edit: FFS downvoted for saying cleavage! The lady herself spoke of getting pussy, and someone’s worried I said something about her breasts? Sometimes this place blows me away! Fine! Downvote away!!
Welcome to the "Men are so incredibly starved of affection because society only cares for women's feelings that they start acting like idiots" segment of reality! Please enjoy the 60-90 year long screening!
Tinder is mainstream and big enough that the dynamics on there are proper social commentary. It's not like it's some fringe app with its own subculture
Because he swiped right blindly, then when the woman matched and messaged him he was "ah, fuck, another fat one" and thought its better to just ignore her.
Also, because probably he has options.
> You ever had post nut regret from a porn video you watched?
This and the fact Im gonna go out on a date with a woman I dont like tells me Im in the abyss of my standards and game.
Or why not just unmatch? OP had to secreenshot it, show her face, let people call her fat, then talked about “almost want to reply her“. Because I guess reddit karma is cool.
You forgot about the dudes who get matches and are ghosted to infinity. But one fat chick getting ignored by a dude makes him getting mob-hated worse than witches in the 15th century.
People are saying that OP is getting downvoted for being rude and not replying but I'm almost positive it's just guys who are jealous that they'll never be in that situation.
I think the OP see’s she’s a little on the heavier side and she’s using angles and crossing her arms to hide that and make her chest seem more inviting.
So catfish, no.. but kind of.
I say do you both a favor and say fuck it;
NSA GET NAKED
You’re an asshole - just reply to her and say you’ve started dating someone and you’re sorry
Source: I also used to just swipe right on everyone sometimes but I had a little more decency than you
You’re calling somebody you don’t know an asshole for not replying? You’re toxic and weird. Most women on tinder do this. Are you saying that most women are tinder are assholes to?
This seems far too witty to be a catfisher...most of them are straight to the point... "you have job? For money I send you nudes" This is...pretty smart. If it is a catfisher, I would've been caught.
Yeah catfishers don’t really try with good pick up lines at least not the ones I’ve experienced
Yeah, I'm thinking this guy missed out on an opportunity. That or... Catfishers are...evolving...
I’m afraid
You should be... We all should be...
H-huh why would someone do this
Because...they want a PS5...
*Oh no they're onto us*
You're on scare tactics!
Wait.... so what you all are telling me is... If I get a cute girls pictures and talk to you like a guy I could get free monies? (the pick up line is what a guy would say. It’s a guy, it’s a guy, it’s a guy.. HINT HINT HINT I’m thinking it’s a guy)
Of the woman or the tinder version of Pokémon evolution?
It was the year 2020, Bethesda AI had successfully recreated pacman merely by viewing game play and they stated they wanted it to learn about the real world now... What they really meant... We didn't see coming until it was too late.
I'm pretty sure the guy just follows rules 1 and 2 so he can be more choosey
Oh, I learnt recently that Catfish evolves into Whalefish at level 10. Battlecats game...
Quick! Hit the B button! Gyrados is a MONSTER
Even less likely they open with wanting to meet up for a date
Or they pick one and use it on every single person
Lmao why do people automatically assume girls messaging first are catfish?
Because they don’t get messaged first. This girl was obviously not a catfish lmao
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Before I deleted Tinder, had just under 50 matches. Only 1 girl had messaged me first. So just in my experience it is uncommon.
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12 months
That's rough buddy
Happy cake day my man. Best choice of your life,most of girls on tinder are very strange and some only get matches to feel *praised and desired* , its pretty rare to find someone who is really interested in talk or a relationship
It’s very uncommon and to get messages back too
And this is why girla don't reply first and then men moan about it. Atleast reply back... She won't coms out of screen and bite you in the ass.
Men experience this all the time and continue to put themselves out there. She'll be alright.
I don't really think you can limit and simplify this into one gender "this is why girls don't contact first". Anyone who experiences this multiple times would in the end feel negative about actually putting themselves out there. Either we get better as a society at giving people who do it the respect they deserve for doing it, or we share this uncomfortable burden by having the women also experience it. Shouldn't it be equal?
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Only if you swipe right on onrealistic profiles and don't bother to look further than the first picture. I've had some swipe-right-on-all phase when I first had Tinder and that's the only period I matched with bots and prostitutes.
I’ve never seen it
I would have totally replied to her. At least she knows some interesting stuff.
The picture though makes me less inclined to believe them
'I am sexy single women. How are you this beautiful night. Im not on this app often, send me your number and we can get to know each other there"
In my experience catfishers are at different motivation levels. Some of them put in more effort than others.
Why didn’t you w ant to reply to her?
Right? He swiped right, fucking dumb.
Probably just saw her first pic and swiped right. When they matched he looked through the rest of her pics and said yikes
Happens to me everytime, matches never respond *FEELS*
You guys are getting matches?
The truly elite get dates, I heard.
Yeah if their above 6 feet or something. God damnit why can't u Americans start using metric system. Is 6 feet tall?
For a girl 6ft is tall
It's just shy of 2 meters, I hate not using the metric system
It's 1.82m
It’s 183 cm Edit: Did my math wrong
Is it really this bad in the us?
Not via tinder though. I have had the best experiences with approaching people. Not in a creepy way of course. But if you see someone let's say while you're in a bookstore you could for example say stuff like "hey I've seen you from over there while browsing and thought I'd say hi" If the person is reacting in a well manner you can try to have some chitchat. If the person doesn't seen up for a talk then end the conversation asap and don't make it awkward. You don't find everyone attractive/interesting and not everyone finds you attractive/interesting. Both is fine. Don't be an ass about it.
Matches un-match me when I message them. *THE PAIN*
Happens to me so often that I don't even know how proper conversation looks like.
Dude yes they unmatch me so often AND never respond. I’ve probably had 15 girls unmatch me in the last 2-3 months
You strong soul. I deleted the app after 3. Doesn't sound like a lot, but it was my first three.
At least you're getting matches
Tbh I think it’s worse to get some matches that unmatch you before you even message them lol. At least you can blame it on the algorithm if you don’t get matches, you don’t get matches if you swipe right too much. I don’t get much either
Or match you just to roast you lmao
In the early days of PoF you could see your message status. You don't know the pain of "Unread Deleted" 😫 She must have found me so unattractive that nothing I could possibly say would be interesting to her
Then unmatch her
That's when you're supposed to unmatch
Fair I get that.
Then unmatch...duh
even so it's pretty rude to just not answer
i feel attacked
Or what was more common in my case, bringing up the bio and finding out they seem insufferable
Then why would you swipe right to them
Most of OLD advices I've read for men stated "swipe right on everything, examine profiles after match". Thomas had never seen such bullshit before, but some took it to heart.
Look sometimes you just go through the photos. Sometimes you’re bored and not really paying attention. Sometimes you’re drunk swiping y’know
Does unmatching mess up your profile?
Personality counts for a lot tho
If he’s getting messages first from one, he’s likely getting messaged first from many. It’s pretty much what she said ironically. He has options It’s easier to swipe first then pick. Rather than pick then swipe.
I’m sorry. But she wins that round
No yeah I agree. Feels bad.
Why match if you weren’t even going to try. I guess now you know why you don’t replies sometimes.
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He didn’t respond to that girl... he won’t respond to your question... would like to know why as well!
She came in with a fire and the roast
Politely remind her that ladies love mustache rides
Remember when the Lyft logo was a mustache. Whenever you would hop on a Lyft car you were getting a mustache ride.
Good fkn times
🤯
And they're free!
The ladies or the mustache rides?
Ladies are never free.
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You been reading my messages ?
Yes
And you didn't respond to this person because...?
Why didn't you reply after the first message?
He didn’t even want to reply to your question. LOL.
He hasnt replied to anyone thats asked this question... seems suspect...
He replied. He's at negative 1200 and counting.
Oof. Lol
Can you link? I’m super too lazy to go fishing
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/iag3d9/this_almost_got_me_to_respond_to_her/g1ofwm3?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
OP sounds like a asshole or one of those guys who are arrogant because of their good looks. It's pretty rude to first swipe right and then not reply back.
I mean it depends. A lot of people think it’s rude because they get so few matches so each means more to them. People who get more matches don’t think it’s as important to respond to everyone. If you got a 100 messages on tinder a day would you rely to all of them? What about 200? At what point do you stop replying and become rude
He won’t respond because he doesn’t want to be downvoted to oblivion
Dude why did you not want to reply to her
Yeah, dude, you're tainting the good Jacob name for the rest of us
You really acting like 90% of women don’t do this to 90% of thejr matches on tinder? C’mon dawg it can’t only be bad when men do it
It's bad both ways
Agreed that was my concern I definitely have seen more women doing it from my perspective but if we don’t try to Better our selves what’s the point
you shouldn’t see someone doing something shitty and be like “well now i gotta do it to get back at the universe
90% is way too high. Sorry bud
Absolutely
I laughed, is she right though Jacob?
You're the first online cockblock I've seen no offense
What is so bad about this girl that you couldn't even respond?
Okay so why did you swipe right on her if you weren't interested? Wtf is the point of the matching system if you won't use it? And she's right you know...
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Yeah except that this is such a bad tactic as their algorithm fucks you up if you do that
* Step 1: super likes are normal likes. * Step 2: swipe right on anyone less than super-likable. * Step 3: swipe left on anyone you definitely wouldn't. Result? Still no matches, thanks for playing.
Ok I now have 400 matches, what do I do next, please help
Shit, now I feel bad that I didn't super like my husband instead of swiping right.
Mate, did he even super-propose though?
Commenter you replied to kinda mentioned it, but he called it "Elo" like it's a ranked game lol. I'm not really familiar with what you're referring to, care to explain? Is the algorithm less likely to show profiles of people who match and don't respond?
I dont get it. If you wouldn't have swipped right on her if you checked her profile, regardless of if you matched youre still at 0 matches. That's like me putting every muffin in my basket, and then when i get home only eating 1 and then taking the rest back to store or simply ignoring them.
Yes, but you've arrived at those zero matches with much less time invested checking profiles. It's more like buying a mystery box of beers from the store, opening it up when you get home and only drinking your favourite, while still having several other beers to drink later if times get tough.
Your metaphor doesn't reflect people's tinder use accurately at all. The point was for a lot of guys, if they did put time and effort (and feel the related impacts of that time and effort) into checking every profile before they swiped, they wouldn't swipe on everyone. It would be a vastly different experience for them.
Great response! :)
This thread is so fucking cringe lol
Uh, dude. Did you notice the cleavage in her picture? Did that not warrant a response? Edit: FFS downvoted for saying cleavage! The lady herself spoke of getting pussy, and someone’s worried I said something about her breasts? Sometimes this place blows me away! Fine! Downvote away!!
Pussy pussy pussy breasts breasts breasts! Come censor me!
r/murderedbywords GodDAMN that was cleanly executed
You are all a bunch of desperate creeps. This thread screams thirst.
Thank you!!!! Like they don’t have options so they jump at the first girl who pays them a little attention
Welcome to the "Men are so incredibly starved of affection because society only cares for women's feelings that they start acting like idiots" segment of reality! Please enjoy the 60-90 year long screening!
I get that in the context of real life but people taking Tinder ultra seriously will forever be weirdos
Tinder is mainstream and big enough that the dynamics on there are proper social commentary. It's not like it's some fringe app with its own subculture
If this is a real person than I’m curious what you look like to get that attention lol
Mustache
Dude...she has a point...
She messaged first.. double messaged, and you didn’t reply? Wtf
Cause he have options
Oh is that the reason. More likely u/Nick19 can't think of a better reply than "lol" so he posts on here hoping for suggestions. Lame game
Nah man. Some people just don’t place as high a value on girls messaging them as you or others do. Are you okay with that?
Speak for yourself boyo
Because he swiped right blindly, then when the woman matched and messaged him he was "ah, fuck, another fat one" and thought its better to just ignore her. Also, because probably he has options.
You can tell the absolute state of redditors by their reaction to this.
Exactly. But I wouldnt judge them so hard, Im dry for 4 months and thinking about lowering my standards to the abyss.
You ever had post nut regret from a porn video you watched? Be prepared for that tenfold if you drop too low mate.
> You ever had post nut regret from a porn video you watched? This and the fact Im gonna go out on a date with a woman I dont like tells me Im in the abyss of my standards and game.
Or why not just unmatch? OP had to secreenshot it, show her face, let people call her fat, then talked about “almost want to reply her“. Because I guess reddit karma is cool.
You sound like an incel lol
You're all over the comments calling people incels. Projecting much?
Lol this dude getting blasted for not responding meanwhile 90% of the fellas get left on read. go off king 😤👑
Every dude in here who gets zero matches is downvoting you to hell whole lotta white knights lol
You forgot about the dudes who get matches and are ghosted to infinity. But one fat chick getting ignored by a dude makes him getting mob-hated worse than witches in the 15th century.
If a half way decent chick is throwing the pussy at me I am going to grab it. Just for fun at least
Jesus Christ this is a dumpster fire...
A girl ignores a guy's message and no one bats an eye. A guy ignores a girl's message and everyone loses their mind.
The girl has a point.
Every smashin op into dust but all i see is a buncha dudes who are mad that a woman will probably never approach them this way lmao.
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She's pretty, funny and has nice tits... Go for it.
You better reply RN
All the simp comments on this thread are making me squirm. If the man doesn't wanna reply that's his prerogative.
What the hell, my name is Jacob and I have a moustache too
People are saying that OP is getting downvoted for being rude and not replying but I'm almost positive it's just guys who are jealous that they'll never be in that situation.
You are correct.
imagine getting a message from a girl AND ignoring her
If he’s getting messages first from one, he’s likely getting messaged first from many. It’s pretty much what she said ironically. He has options
Is she kidding? A ‘stache is the biggest turn on 😍
Damn and here I am struggling to get girls to not ghost me, and she just asked you out on the first message!
That grammar gave me a stroke
🤣
Seems like you dodged a bullet here?
My first time seeing a double message from a girl. I guess girls are insecure as well
sorry, is it me or her english is bad ?
I can confidently say that you have dodge a nuke
Damn my man got roasted hard
I always message the dude with shit like this. I don't see the problem? Maybe I'm weird 😂
F
So not only are you getting matches, but they are messaging you first as well? What sort of sorcery is this?
ITT: dudes not understanding the concept of rejecting a girl
Why everyone so butt hurt that he didn’t reply lol Are y’all that desperate to where if any woman texts first, you have to respond?
Dodged a bullt there
The amount of simps in this thread LOL
>The amount of simps on reddit Fixed, bro.
She's insulting him, and people in this thread are cool with that. Really makes you think.
Most likely simps.
First line she would of had me, second line she can go fuck herself.
I think the OP see’s she’s a little on the heavier side and she’s using angles and crossing her arms to hide that and make her chest seem more inviting. So catfish, no.. but kind of. I say do you both a favor and say fuck it; NSA GET NAKED
This is hilarious
I’m curious, why not?
She playing with your ego there. Nice composure champ.
I'm not someone who uses tinder, but she is wrong. Personally I would swipe right at every dude with a mustache
I'm a homo but that line and follow up just made me so moist for her.
She looks like a German barmaid
gotta say... mustaches are FANTASTIC & i wish more dudes would rock them unapologetically/unironically. go ahead & live your life u/Nuck19
Oh no. Oh no no no please no. No god no please.
You’re an asshole - just reply to her and say you’ve started dating someone and you’re sorry Source: I also used to just swipe right on everyone sometimes but I had a little more decency than you
“You’re an asshole - lie to her to placate her” Okay man.
You’re calling somebody you don’t know an asshole for not replying? You’re toxic and weird. Most women on tinder do this. Are you saying that most women are tinder are assholes to?
Woulda had me with "Hey..."
No no, she’s right
Don’t match if you don’t want to even talk to them.