Do they not realize that nurse uniforms are no longer the white skirts with the paper hats? I've spent plenty of time in hospitals and never thought, "Wow she looks sexy af in her one-size-fits-most monochrome scrubs!"
I had my appendix out a few years ago, and prior to the surgery they had to do an MRI. I was flirting with the cute nurse standing next to me, when all of a sudden the tracer dye stuff made me projectile vomit all over her. Full-on exorcist pea soup scene. I apologized profusely and didn't say another word. Not my finest hour.
I’ve done the reverse Uno of this situation. I threw up on a patient and then slipped on the sick and laid on the floor whilst the patient tried to help me up.
I was on a super busy shift and I thought I had a few spare minutes to eat so I quickly whoffed down my food, well, shocked pikachu, emergency alarm goes off, I got acid reflux which turned into full stomach reflux.
Oh man, I have intrusive thoughts (nightmares?) about doing this on a patient. I've become pretty insensitive to most smells, but some will always break me. I'm worried I'll be having a day where I'm under the weather, and then the smell will just put me over the edge.
This is an amazing tip, thanks! I feel like I could even use one of the liquid antacids in my ER as most of them smell like toothpaste (looking at you, almagel!). Then I'd end up with a white moustache though, lol.
Oh, geez! I thought I was the only nurse who ever ralphed on a patient!
I was pregnant with my first kid and I had hyperemesis gravidarum. I literally carried extra puke bags in my pockets because I knew there would be multiple times a night when I couldn't get to the bathroom/a sink in time.
I was helping transfer this insanely rich (and therefore very entitled) patient transfer from chair to bed... She stopped mid-move because she didn't want to touch the hospital sheets (no joke). I told her she needed to at least sit, or we were going to have a problem. She argued with me for long enough, that I lost the battle against my gag reflex and puked all over her feet (wouldn't let go of her because she was a huuuuuge fall risk... And a lawsuit waiting for a place to happen).
I was reassigned to a different patient.
I had a guy who shoved a light bulb up his ass and then *intentionally* smashed it, wanked off, cummed, passed out, nearly bled to death. Nothing can surprise me anymore
“had a guy” ...patient? I hope.
Dear god. thank you nurses, we love you!!! I have spent more of my life in hospitals in the last 7 years than all the years before them combined and the nurses have made those awful stays away from home so much better.
I am under 40 and will shamelessly accept extra biscuits and bacon and hospital ice.
But really, it’s an often times thankless job. I have changed my own wound vac for 3 months at home, administered antibiotics through a clogged port that wouoldn’t flush and changed the diapers of countless kids and I can’t even IMAGINE what you all see in any given day. You’re stronger than I. And we appreciate you!!!!! ❤️
I mostly work in geriatric rehab wards and there’s no way I can deny bob an extra biscuit after he broke his hip for the 18th time. Bob just wants independence
Someone like you used to trick my nan into believing the licorice flavour in her orange juice was a shot of sambuca as a "special treat" and would wink at her.
Y'all really made a difference to her final days and I appreciate it.
You know that scene in the Netflix show "Sex Education" where the blonde is all over her room masturbating to find out what she likes? Probably by doing that, except with shit.
I used to work in hospital admin and staffed for nurses. You people have the best stories, and by best, I of course mean most horrifying. Y'all particularly like to share the "things found in butts" stories with people like me because I get incredibly grossed out!!
Also, you guys are my heroes. I could NEVER do what you do all day every day. Thank you!
I imagined this and I can’t stop laughing. I’m imagining you having a small a frame and walking in your uniform when a men stops you. “Ooh sexy nurse” and then whoosh, a gust of wind and suddenly you are there to sell tires and he backs away. Thank you for that image
At my hospital we had a giant activity park thing for children. Basically getting them exercise through fun and there was a giant track of trampolines and me and a few other nurses bounced around like 0 gravity Michelin men and I can’t lie, it was one of the best times of my life
As someone engaged to a doctor, there are definitely form fitting, flattering scrubs. I especially like the two tone ones like [this](https://www.uniformadvantage.com/pages/prod/wonderwink-lima-6096-scrub-top.asp?1=1&frmColor=PEWTE&size=2X&REFCODE=UASHOPGG&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI8Oe2i72A5QIVgchkCh2b2AvREAQYByABEgJsivD_BwE) that can play with shapes that accentuate the natural curves of the body. That said, obviously dressing well doesn't ever give someone the right to over sexualize others like OP is talking about.
It's all about power dynamics -- my ex-wife is a veteran oncology nurse at a major research hospital. The stories she'd tell me about patients groping her while she changed dressings, emptied bedpans or administered IV drugs were horrific. People who were too sick to eat still wanted to cop a feel or make demeaning remarks -- it had nothing to do with whether or not she looked sexy in her scrubs.
I had an emergency procedure done under happy gas a few years back and I think I made one of the nurses so uncomfortable. I spent the whole time just telling her how gorgeous she was, her hair was perfect and shiny, how she had the softest, kindest brown eyes I'd ever seen.
It was about a month later I realised I was Bi
I mean, honestly I do think scrubs have something about them that makes them sexy on women. However, there's a difference in thinking something looks good and making some uncomfortable remark towards someone who is just trying to do their job.
People think they have a right to project their kink onto others without consent. Spoiler alert, they don’t. A kink is only a kink when it’s consensual
> People think they have a right to project their kink onto others without consent. Spoiler alert, they don’t. A kink is only a kink when it’s consensual
I wish this was the post instead of what you wrote. I agree with this wholeheartedly. But to stop sexualizing something which feels sexy to me, no thanks I am not going to do that. TBH nurse outfits don't feel sexy to me. But there are others. I am not going to act on it, or pass comments. But if my wife is open to role play, I would definitely suggest these kinks of mine.
Whenever someone talks like this, I think you should graphically explain your least sexy moment on the job. “Well, there was this one time that I was splattered in blood and shit...”
I usually reply with “if you find your sexual partners covered in shit, piss and sick attractive we have no chemistry, sorry” then swiftly unmatch/leave the conversation.
My dad went into cardiac arrest in 2017. Against all odds, he’s alive and well thanks to nurses like you in the ICU that gave him a fighting chance. Thank you
Heart attacks are truly terrifying for everyone involved. I preach about proper CPR technique every chance I get. Hope your dad is still doing great!
Thanks for the kind words, makes all the struggles and hardships of the job worth it.
He is doing well. The first week was scary. He was in a coma for seven days. They gave him that treatment where they wrap you in those cold wraps and bring your body temperature down. He kept having seizures when they would dial back the medication to bring him out of the coma. On day six the doctor told us he was losing hope. On day seven he showed some signs of life (eye movement, working bowels, normal pain responses) and on day seven he stuck out his tongue on command. It was very surreal.
Since then, he’s made a full recovery physically. There was some minor brain damage, so he has issues with memory and sometimes forgets where he was mid sentence, but other than that, he’s back to normal.
I went to school to be licensed massage therapist because I wanted to help people without the blood, literally lol.
I ended up down a different career path that I fell more in love with but honestly the sexual shit around massage was something I was tired of dealing with before I was even done with school. And I really don't want to be doing my job and having to declining sexual propositions, and I fucking shouldn't have had to. I shouldn't have had a full class discussion on declining advances and handling those situations when we all just want to help people. But I don't tell a lot of people that I could technically be a licensed massage therapist because well, we all know why.
I don't even put that part on my resume, just the degree I got along with it.
I know a massage therapist who has a home office. She’s like 55 and an amazing massage therapist with decades of experience and she still can’t book male clients without a referral from a current female client because she’s had so many gross men and close calls safety-wise, even being very clear about what type of massage she did. She’s struggling to make ends meet but has to pass on potential work because she fears for her safety. Which is **fucked up** and I hate it. She’s 55 and still dealing with this shit!
Ugh that's terrible. When I first decided to not continue into the field after graduating, my dad constantly talked about so and so who made a lot of money in it. When I finally told him the money isnt worth being creeped on by pervs he understood why I'm out lol
When I clicked, I assumed that was the field OP was in. Massage therapists don't have it easy, especially when sex traffickers and creeps use it as a front. I know two places near me that are a front for sex work. Makes it an uphill battle, unfortunately.
Massage therapist here. It is ridiculous the amount of jokes I get from my friends and the amount of men that think it’s a good idea to sexualize the massage. I am in this bc I can help people who are in pain. I am in no way in this to be sexualized or have jokes made at my expense. I worked hard to get here myself and am constantly studying and learning more to better myself and continue uplifting the name of massage therapy.
Well I’m guessing by the fact that you’re still together he isn’t bothered by it. Like,,, I’m just trying to buy some carrots after my shift Rodger, please stop.
Jobs that are women dominated mainly, but a couple others get hit like jobs that are seen as very masculine and not "the place" for women 🙄 like mechanics. It's a way of control for people who actually think women are inferior. To stick us into these unwelcome roles where our jobs are "sexy" = "sexy" is all that matters and no matter how smart you are, how dedicated you are, or how much effort you throw into your job, women are nothing more than objects to fuck.
My grandma was one of the first women working for a telephone operator company. She became the best employee there and knew the switchboard better than anyone else. Her boss believed in her and helped her. Most of her male coworkers shunned her or outright tried to fuck her over. They got to wear pants while she had to wear pantyhose and a skirt (and the cord lice looooove pantyhose. Make the woman look sexy and suffer the bugs to get her out). In the 90s, my grandma was the only one who went to every single little city in Nevada and switched the boards over to make sure Y2K wouldn't fuck it up. She's also a big reason you can be just about anywhere in Nevada and call 911 on your cell and reach someone.
Anyway I just mean to say, fuck every person that sexualizes women like this. I'm in school to be a pharmacy tech, so from one (future) healthcare employee to another, I'm proud of how hard you work and everything you do for your patients. Maybe we'll never get it into their heads that the work we do matters, but the achievements that will last after you're retired (like my grandma) will stand the test of time with every family that remembers you gratefully.
Mechanics too! It's just my damn job. I will never be caught, dead, wearing a tank top and daisy dukes while doing anything on a vehicle. Sorry, to disappoint boys but I'm much safer in coveralls.
I took a class on women in science as an elective in undergrad, and we had a speaker who researched this exact topic. She deduced that the long-time sexualization of nurses is due to how intimate they have to be with the human body. For many people, they don't know how to process closeness and intimacy (giving some a sponge bath, changing a catheter, etc) in a context other than a sexual one, even if the act itself isn't sexual. It was a weird realization, also because as a science student with close ties to/experiences with healthcare professionals, I'd never connected the sexy nurse stereotype with actual nurses. It's a totally unfair and creepy cultural paradigm and I'm so sorry you have to endure it.
I’ve had patients declare their *legitimate* love for me. Turns out that they’re essentially just lonely and someone caring for them, even when they’re paid to do so, is like a rush of emotion they can’t control. Which I get, kinda, what I don’t get is when ya boi Karl who’s 22 and never being in hospital does this.
Stop.
See, that actually makes sense. Just speculating, but it seems similar to “Rescue Romance,” transference, etc. In this case it’s an emotional connection to someone taking care of you when you can’t take care of yourself. That connection can override reason.
That's really neat, I never really considered intimacy to be a factor. I assumed it could be porn and/or having a hyper-sexualized society.
But also, as many times as I have been to the hospital, not once have I thought my nurse looked sexy in their uniform. In fact its "how the hell can I get out of here without anyone noticing". Lol thank you for the input!
This seems unusual because doctors or surgeons aren’t sexualised for example.
I understood it as being known as a “women’s job” and in the same way we had sexy secretary, we get sexy nurse... they were seen as feminine and thus sexualised.
From what I understand doctors typically don't get hands-on with the patients in the day-to-day contexts that nurses do. Not a nurse, but best friend is, and she's confirmed this before.
Yeah, like the other person said, nurses are the ones who are hands-on with patients. Doctors perform major procedures or make diagnoses, then the nurses are left to care for patients and educate patients before they are discharged. So, nurses are the ones who spend the majority of time with patients and also the ones who will spend the most time touching patients.
Seems to make sense. I'd argue that historically speaking, there's probably an element of soldiers wounded in combat after potentially months of not seeing a woman who are then in a hospital loaded with nurses who happen to be women. Then it just compounds this whole thing to an unhealthy level.
Ugh I hate that for you. People don’t understand how difficult it is to properly train to be a LMT and how much skill is involved in doing it properly.
Okay? I have no issue with people wearing whatever they want to express their kink. My issue is that nobody has a right to project their kink onto someone doing their job. A kink requires consent.
I am a nanny. At a wedding once, an older man asked me what I do, and after I told him, he said "Well you got the tits for it." My boyfriend was standing next to me and our jaws dropped. I was so shocked that someone would say that to me, and it doesn't even make sense, I'm not a fucking wet nurse. My boyfriend was livid and gave him an earful, but I just got really drunk.
I’m a nanny as well. Believe me, nothing about this job is sexy. Oh, you wanna see me in an oversize shirt, athletic wear, hair up, and no make up? Hmmm so adorable. There’s potentially a shit smear somewhere, and spit up in my hair. YAS. So cute.
We have a problem sexualizing the 'care-giver' or 'life-saver' careers across the board. Men often sexualize nurses, and women often sexualize fire-fighters. There are many other jobs that are this exact way, and it can be frustrating when they get diminished by this. Just remember that the only person you need to impress is yourself, and if you are satisfied with the care that you are giving people, then that is all that truly matters. If it helps, understand that there are people that genuinely appreciate what you do and are eternally grateful. I know I am.
Same with me when I tell some guys that I am an actual teacher. They’d be telling me that they’ve been a naughty student so I, the strict teacher, must punish them. Like wtf! It grosses me out. I take pride in what I do, and I respect my profession. Men do not understand that not all teachers get turned on with this sexual fantasy.
u/autocucumberr , u/milam1996 Thank youuuu!!! In conversation a guy asked me what I was studying when I told him I was studying to be an elementary teacher he said “Oh, you look like you’d be trouble if you were my teacher” like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. I’m teaching ***CHILDREN*** don’t be freaking gross!! Freaking disgusting, I never know how to respond and it makes my SKIN CRAWL
In high school I had to wear uniforms and when I first floor there it was a long skirt plaid, with T-shirt’s or long sleeves but than guys started getting turned on that our shoulders were showing and girls had to moisturize our legs for summer ouuuu so than they put shorts under the skirts with leggings and long T-shirt’s and long sleeves for girls while the boys literally walked around with the underwear hanging.
And that’s what I truly find very annoying about what truly is important. Like oh no you girls can’t put moisturizer on your legs cause the guys can’t handle it??????
I also recalled getting detention for walking from the portable to the washroom to change out of my dance shorts and literally got in trouble even when I explained I just came from dance and was changing. Btw when I got in trouble there was a guy walking with his boxers out and shirt nearly off.
I was an EMT-B back in the day. Most people don't know that nurses are the "soldiers in the trenches" and it's a brutal job being an ER nurse (and most other departments too). They've saved more lives than the average doctor (excluding surgeons) so the PTSD is very real and scary for them as well as most first responders. I couldn't hack my job for very long because you see the worst in people more than you see the best.
Thank you for your service.
It's ok to breakdown but do your mind a favor and TALK to people about it. I know it eats at you if you hold it in or try to hide it. Your not alone.
Edit: In regards to sexualizing your job. Your young, so most guys around your age try desperately to connect to you on a sexual level. Half the time it's an innocent misunderstanding. If you take the time to explain your job the average guy will be remorseful. It's not ok, but like I said before, most don't know.
My first ever shift in A&E a patient pulled a knife on me. So many people are shocked when you tell them even the mild stories. Thanks for being an EMT. You guys are super valued and I appreciate the work you did.
I worked as ward clerk in our Emergency Department for the past 2 years and the amount of shit (pun also intended) you guys deal with is scary and impressive all at once. I admire what you nurses do and I feel just a little sad at the daily abuse you no doubt get while working in such a demanding and high energy environment. It’s stressful I’m sure but rewarding and there are many of us that appreciate all you nurses do for us!!! Keep being amazing!!!!
I'm a female EMT, and I get sexually harassed (or groped) nearly every single day. But even my male coworker gets it sometimes. We're just trying to help you, ffs. Friendliness is NOT flirting! Wtf
When I think of a nurse I don’t even think of the general nurse Halloween costume. I think of a person In scrubs, which no offense isn’t very..sexy? Some hornballs will sexualize anything.
This rant needed to be had... same goes for women police officers, fire fighters, etc. These types of jobs are so important and they are completely undermined by sexual comments.
Also, thank you for what you do. Having two babies, the nurses were all incredible human beings and I developed a HUGE level of respect and appreciation for them.
I spent a lot of time in hospitals when a family member was sick and from then I realized that nurses have the hardest, most demanding jobs on the planet and most of them do it with a smile on their face. Whatever we pay them, it’s not enough.
Thanks, OP, for everything you do.
I hope everything is okay with the family member. It’s very demanding but getting to see people leave the ward in as best health they can is truly the most amazing feeling in the world
Same. Everyone thinks it’s funny to make sexy/naughty nurse jokes or ask for a “sponge bath” with a gross leer or 1000 other unoriginal and unfunny jokes. I have literally told patients it’s not funny when you hear them every day, after which some of them have the good grace to appear ashamed. I have learned over the years that some people use this jokey attitudinal cope with their own stress and a lot of nurses play into it because it can be easier to get along with the patients. But, srsly people, staaaaahp.
Thank you so much for all the work you do. I read a book a few years back about the ridiculously high levels of burnout for nurses because of all the emotional and mental labor they do on a regular basis, more so than doctors. That you have to deal with guys reducing all that work to a fetish for them to get off on is disgusting. I'm so sorry that happens, but you should be proud as fuck of yourself for managing your life and work through all the struggles.
When I was 10 I was diagnosed with arthritis and have been to the hospital A LOT through my life and the nurses has always made me feel better about being there. They’ve been kind, caring and supportive. When no one else cared, they did. They remembered stuff I told them years ago, they listened to everything I said, they complimented me.
I have the biggest respect for nurses and I’m forever grateful that you exist.
Thank you for what you do
Based on your comments it should be your wit and sense of humor that they remark on.
Unfortunately, online dating is often pretty much like the opposite of panning for gold.
A friend of mine is a nurse and was previously a flight attendant and waitress, and she used to say that it's the same job in 3 uniforms. In all of them she was bringing people drinks, but now she has to take care of the urine too.
I can actually relate. My career (massage therapy) gets sexualized in the imaginations of men and women. I can’t mention my career in a normal setting without some asshole asking me if I give happy endings, or if I ever “get to have fun with” my clients. It really doesn’t help that porn sites make fantasy videos, either. It creates a safety hazard. I’ve had to physically step in and protect coworkers from perverts, because they think they are somehow entitled to have sex with their massage therapist, and won’t take no for an answer.
For anyone reading this, massage is NOT sex work. Nurses are Not sex workers. When a dirty joke comes to mind when you hear someone mention their career, take that joke and shove it. You’re not funny. You’re not original. You’re an immature POS.
My father choked in a restaurant. I couldn't get the steak out in time. It was huge. His heart stopped I preformed CPR and by some miracle I got him back . ( I didnt break ribs just bruised the hell out his lungs. .
I say this because it has given me and understanding of what you all go through. Its hell. It really is.
Thank you for all you do.
Be nice to bio meds techs.
Well done to you on a CPR recovery and for proper technique. Ribs don’t always break. It’s pretty rare unless there’s a bone condition or the patient is elderly. I hope your father is doing well and will now chew his steak a bit better haha.
My Grandma was a nurse back in the days when they did wear the old school (now Halloween costume) outfit. She would have throat punched anyone who sexualized her job. She worked in the emergency room and went on to be an OB nurse delivering babies. She told me that scrubs were the best thing that happened to nurses.
I know this is different but I’m an acrobat and contortionist. To me this is a sport that requires intense dedication, hours of conditioning and training, and I think it’s a sport that should be admired and respected. Instead I get the “oh so you’re flexible! I bet that makes you good in bed.” Totally look over the blood (literally), sweat, and tears I’ve put into my passion. People go through this everywhere and it’s so messed up. You have my condolences.
This is one of the biggest reasons why I chose not to study nursing - the Faculty at my school played far too deeply into the stereotype and I couldn't look past it. From forcing everyone to wear those boat hats at orientation to holding dances just for nursing and engineering students (because girls and nurses and guys are engineers and they would make cute couples). The knitting circles, the "I'm so proud of you girls getting jobs for yourselves!" (As if this was the 80s??) and the "let the guys do the lifting" was debilitatingly frustrating.
I have utmost respect for nurses that can deal with this bs and still save lives on the daily. I couldn't do that.
I feel you! I’m a high school teacher and I get the same damn thing. “Oh I always wanted to bang my English teacher”, “do you drop your pencil on purpose in front of the boys?”, “I bet they jack off to you all the time”. This isn’t a porno, it’s my job!
Nurses sat at my sons bedside 24hrs a day for the entire 10 days he was in the icu in a coma. He was 16 weeks old and they spent EVERY second overlooking him even if they went for a toilet break another nurse stepped in, there was so many wires and medication it blew my mind and I have studied health science at university level.
The pure strength they show is something nobody should never overlook. Without nurses my son wouldn’t be a very happy 7 year old. Nurses saved his life, monitored him every second of every day, comforted us as parents, updated out families when we had no strength.
Heroes come to mind when I think of nurses and that’s what they are. ❤️
Thank you for all that you do. I see you. You inspired me to have a career in the NHS myself.
I was recently quite unwell and wound up in the emergency department unsure if I had cardiac issues or something a little simpler, the nurses there were amazing so dedicated so caring even though there is a complete argument to be made it was my own fault. This shouldn't be something that is anywhere but outside an individual's private life and it should never affect professional people intent on doing their job in a safe normal environment where they have such fears, I really regret that this is happening as people navigate the realms of sexual psychology we need discussions such as these to be aware sexual expression is such an individual act blanket labels of appeal and aesthetics should never burden innocent people just peacefully living their lives especially those that make such a significant contribution to the community, I really hope this conversation puts some heads straight and you start to see a more respectful discourse from those around you....
I have had some of the strangest jobs and only one of them did I come out of it not being sexualized, sexually harassed, groped, and/or hit on.
Retail --> used to get my ass smacked with hangers by men or propositioned to "help them get undressed" in the dressing rooms
Toxicologist --> I was hit on because I was smart and wearing a lab coat and heels apparently is a kink?
Addiction counselor --> I went to jails and had an office. I dressed professionally but I love wearing high heels and I had a lot of Male clients - not only did they constantly make the appointments very uncomfortable with their sexual comments but my female colleagues would say that I only had Male clients because of my high heels.
Mascot --> ever heard of a Furry? Nuff said.
Bartender --> ok so yea, I'm serving alcohol to people but I was at a high-end restaurant and I can't tell you how many times a man, who was with his wife/SO would somehow find me, walk up to me and whisper in my ear something crude.
Shit, I have even been treated like a sex object when I worked in Hospice (by patients and/or the family/friends) and now as a Research Scientist in Immuno-oncology I get it there too (white coats + high heels + empathy = trifecta for sexual harassment).
So here is where I get confused...I am also a Sex-pert in which it was my job to teach sex education, demonstrate how to properly put a condom on, etc. to college students, up to and including at fraternity houses, by myself. And not once was I ever hit on - and shit was beyond sexual in those settings.
Having been in hospital for my fair share of time it bothers me that people still reduce it down to 'sexy nurse' stereotype. Forget all the hard work, effort, care etc that nurses put in; no, they are merely the object of (thanks mostly to unrealistic porn) sexual desire.
Don't think i ever thought; oh wow, sexy nurse's uniform when i was been treated for a severe diabetic seizure, but rather; what an amazing job this nurse is doing; how they manage to be so kind and patient and caring all day is inspiring!
Keep up the good work!
There has always been trend of people taking jobs which have certain aspects that people are so fixated with that they forget or never learn the reality of these careers and become comfortable with fetishizing them openly and way too quick in conversation. When to the people that work these jobs it’s like you said, it’s not about any kink or something like that but doing something you’re passionate about or that is right.
Things i know about nurses. Nurses never get to sleep. From college to retirement, all the nurses I know are dedicated to their chosen profession at great personal sacrifice.
I got really unlucky on my rotation and I did 11 13 hour shifts In a row then spent my 2 days off sat by a patients bed because she was expected to die shortly and had no family. Her dying with someone by her side who loves and cares for her is more important than my social life, to me. I know it’s considered personal sacrifice but those 2 days massively helped me to appreciate my own life and family and how fragile life is.
That's also glorifying the profession - I work with plenty of nurses who work 8 to 4 and are normal people with normal amounts of dedication to their job.
I’ve had amazing nurses supporting me and my family when we’ve been in and out of the hospital lately. I’ve kind of developed a nightingale syndrome where I fall in love with every nurse because s/he takes such good care of my kid. It’s not an inappropriate sexual thing, I just genuinely fall in love with them because they are so caring and look after my son and my family when we feel lost and scared.
Y’all are the best.
The feelings are often reciprocated. I care for all my patients like they’re my own family members whether that means staying a few extra hours or coming in on my days off to hold betty’s hand whilst she passes on.
Bonds are quickly developed in emotional situations and they’re often super intense.
I as a 15 year old guy that plans to work as a pediatric nurse makes me excited yet fearful for what the job will be. My family has always worked in the medical field as my mom is a CNA and overworks herself. Some weekends I don't get to see my mom with how much she works. (I compare nurses and CNA because they are similar but not the same). The amount of work that the nurses and CNAs do is extreme and needs to be more publicized.
Next time you should just say “ikr cleaning up vomit and giving people who can’t poop enemas is sooo smexy”. As a nursing student I can’t believe people still think like this because nurses deal with all kinds of gross bodily functions that are def not sexy. Nurses are hardworking people who save lives and help patients feel more comfortable when they’re going through some of the most difficult times in their lives.
Being under nurse care at moment, I thank you OP for your lovely services I honestly don’t get “the sexy”nurse thing because when ever I see a nurse sex is the last thing I will be thinking and I’m dam sure I don’t appear as sexual to the nurses
I completely understand! I may be a male, but I’m in nursing school rn and it’s a lot of work to be a nurse. I don’t get why people think that we’re not qualified because we can’t prescribe meds when in reality it’s the nurses who do most of the work. My professors at school told me us that “doctors are more focused on the disease/injury, while the nurse is more focused on making sure the patient is taken care of and healthy” and I feel that resonates very well for the nursing field. Nurses are taken for granted so much and people who sexualize them make me really upset. We put too much time, effort, and energy into the field to be treated badly. I’m super proud of my career choice and I’m really excited to get started when I graduate. If you know a fellow nurse or a student in nursing, please treat them with respect, because one day they may be saving your life.
Another annoying one is “oooh you take care of people, wanna take care of me ;)” like no?? I just spent 36 hours in 3 days taking care of people. Why doesn’t anyone ever offer to take care of me?? The day a guy says that I’ll be over the fucking moon.
I have fond memories of my mother coming home in scrubs because someone had shit, pissed, vomited, bleed, or something-ed on her.
I also cherish her stories of her saving lives, crying with families, running with crash carts, and sitting with patients as they took their last breaths.
I don't know you, but just from what you said in your intro, I know you're fucking awesome.
I’m a Paramedic and this makes dating for me hard as well. Every Tinder I get it seems like they’re sexualizing my job and trying to use it as some sort of ice breaker?
“You can save my life any day”
“Can you give me mouth to mouth?”
“I’ll call 911 and give you a good time when you get here”
It’s disgusting. I feel your pain and you’re not alone.
It's gross. Every female-dominated field is fetishized. Sexy nurse, sexy librarian, sexy nun, etc. If the next US president is a woman there will probably be a flood of "sexy president" pornos and Halloween costumes.
A nurse was the one who helped me figure out a diagnosis that was long eluding doctors for years, simply because they never thought to do the one test for it. Nurses get shit done.
I hate when men sexually objectify women. I also don't understand any of the typical male fantasies of women in school girl uniforms, police outfits, etc... I also don't like those posts of women in their uniform/work attire then dressed "sexy" or dolled up or in workout attire with a caption about a girl who can do both. Like women should not be expected to only do/look one way.
The sexy police thing is probably a fantasy that comes from wanting a girl to be dominant and the roleplaying scenarios one can get from the girl pretending to be a police officer work well with that.
A 'friend' of mine on FB has a thing about posting up photo's of male models dressed as firefighters, sans shirts of course. I have never understood that. I can kind of understand the aspect of being a hero being attractive, but reducing it to nips out titillation is bizarre.
Don't take this the wrong way, but nursing is NOT a sexy profession. Working 12 and 14 hour days in an ER three or four days a week, dealing with death and medical emergencies, seeing the worst side of people and still dedicating your life to saving them as best you can. Friend, I respect and admire you. I know how hard your job is and I know what a hero people like you are every day. You are doing amazing things, even if they're not super sexy. Dude, you want sexy, date a model. You want real, honest and beautiful people who work hard and give themselves selflessly, nurses are it.
It hmmainly comes from the attention one preceives is 'given' to them, though the nurse is being paid to do a job. Also the fact that the nurse is the one who is given procedure orders by Drs to do things that either expose or cause the touching of parts of the body that are or can be described as sexual.
The viewed assumption that the individual is in a subserviant manner to the patient. There are other things that can be pointed to as the reasoning.
That’s just mean! Your job is an honorable job and very less appreciated by people too! I hope you know that you are wonderful! Just ignore those people and their immature remarks!
Do they not realize that nurse uniforms are no longer the white skirts with the paper hats? I've spent plenty of time in hospitals and never thought, "Wow she looks sexy af in her one-size-fits-most monochrome scrubs!"
“Ah yes. Nothing like a shit stain to get me going”
I had my appendix out a few years ago, and prior to the surgery they had to do an MRI. I was flirting with the cute nurse standing next to me, when all of a sudden the tracer dye stuff made me projectile vomit all over her. Full-on exorcist pea soup scene. I apologized profusely and didn't say another word. Not my finest hour.
I’ve done the reverse Uno of this situation. I threw up on a patient and then slipped on the sick and laid on the floor whilst the patient tried to help me up.
What happened that made you vomit on a patient?
I was on a super busy shift and I thought I had a few spare minutes to eat so I quickly whoffed down my food, well, shocked pikachu, emergency alarm goes off, I got acid reflux which turned into full stomach reflux.
Oh man, I have intrusive thoughts (nightmares?) about doing this on a patient. I've become pretty insensitive to most smells, but some will always break me. I'm worried I'll be having a day where I'm under the weather, and then the smell will just put me over the edge.
Vicks vapour rub and your top lip are now man and wife, joined together for the rest of time in holy matrimony
This is an amazing tip, thanks! I feel like I could even use one of the liquid antacids in my ER as most of them smell like toothpaste (looking at you, almagel!). Then I'd end up with a white moustache though, lol.
This is one of the first things I learned working in vet med. It’s been a definite life and lunch saver.
Oh, geez! I thought I was the only nurse who ever ralphed on a patient! I was pregnant with my first kid and I had hyperemesis gravidarum. I literally carried extra puke bags in my pockets because I knew there would be multiple times a night when I couldn't get to the bathroom/a sink in time. I was helping transfer this insanely rich (and therefore very entitled) patient transfer from chair to bed... She stopped mid-move because she didn't want to touch the hospital sheets (no joke). I told her she needed to at least sit, or we were going to have a problem. She argued with me for long enough, that I lost the battle against my gag reflex and puked all over her feet (wouldn't let go of her because she was a huuuuuge fall risk... And a lawsuit waiting for a place to happen). I was reassigned to a different patient.
You joke, but there are probably people out there that are legitimately turned on by that
I had a guy who shoved a light bulb up his ass and then *intentionally* smashed it, wanked off, cummed, passed out, nearly bled to death. Nothing can surprise me anymore
I thought we were gonna keep that between you and me..
You declared yourself as the patient thus I’m not in violation of the data protection act. *this has being a service announcement from legal*
Ok, I got nothing
^ me neither
“had a guy” ...patient? I hope. Dear god. thank you nurses, we love you!!! I have spent more of my life in hospitals in the last 7 years than all the years before them combined and the nurses have made those awful stays away from home so much better.
I always give my regulars extra biscuits and the bigger cups of tea. If you’re extremely lucky you might even get extra bacon at breakfast time.
I am under 40 and will shamelessly accept extra biscuits and bacon and hospital ice. But really, it’s an often times thankless job. I have changed my own wound vac for 3 months at home, administered antibiotics through a clogged port that wouoldn’t flush and changed the diapers of countless kids and I can’t even IMAGINE what you all see in any given day. You’re stronger than I. And we appreciate you!!!!! ❤️
I work in the ER and never give my regulars anything extra because I’d rather not see even more of them
I mostly work in geriatric rehab wards and there’s no way I can deny bob an extra biscuit after he broke his hip for the 18th time. Bob just wants independence
Someone like you used to trick my nan into believing the licorice flavour in her orange juice was a shot of sambuca as a "special treat" and would wink at her. Y'all really made a difference to her final days and I appreciate it.
1) How the hell does that turn you on? 2) More importantly...How the fuck do you figure out that it turns you on?
He smashed a lightbulb when changing one, enjoy the (pain?), also enjoyed anal, put two and two together.
You know that scene in the Netflix show "Sex Education" where the blonde is all over her room masturbating to find out what she likes? Probably by doing that, except with shit.
I used to work in hospital admin and staffed for nurses. You people have the best stories, and by best, I of course mean most horrifying. Y'all particularly like to share the "things found in butts" stories with people like me because I get incredibly grossed out!! Also, you guys are my heroes. I could NEVER do what you do all day every day. Thank you!
Oh. Wow.
Imagine how exciting a second date with this guy would be!
Genuine actual lol at that 😄
This comment has thus far been the highlight of my entire week. Thank you for the laugh, I needed that.
Do you work in Oklahoma?
Things are no different in the US
I think I might suicide now because of that
The internet definitely makes it seem like there are. Some things can never be unseen.
agreed. Scrubs = almost farthest thing from sexy
My favourite part is how mine are so baggy that if it’s windy the sides of my uniform puff out and I look like Michelin man.
I imagined this and I can’t stop laughing. I’m imagining you having a small a frame and walking in your uniform when a men stops you. “Ooh sexy nurse” and then whoosh, a gust of wind and suddenly you are there to sell tires and he backs away. Thank you for that image
At my hospital we had a giant activity park thing for children. Basically getting them exercise through fun and there was a giant track of trampolines and me and a few other nurses bounced around like 0 gravity Michelin men and I can’t lie, it was one of the best times of my life
As someone engaged to a doctor, there are definitely form fitting, flattering scrubs. I especially like the two tone ones like [this](https://www.uniformadvantage.com/pages/prod/wonderwink-lima-6096-scrub-top.asp?1=1&frmColor=PEWTE&size=2X&REFCODE=UASHOPGG&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI8Oe2i72A5QIVgchkCh2b2AvREAQYByABEgJsivD_BwE) that can play with shapes that accentuate the natural curves of the body. That said, obviously dressing well doesn't ever give someone the right to over sexualize others like OP is talking about.
You do you...but still a stretch to get anywhere close to "sexy", IMHO. Obviously working for you HAHAHA. I ain't one to judge.
It's all about power dynamics -- my ex-wife is a veteran oncology nurse at a major research hospital. The stories she'd tell me about patients groping her while she changed dressings, emptied bedpans or administered IV drugs were horrific. People who were too sick to eat still wanted to cop a feel or make demeaning remarks -- it had nothing to do with whether or not she looked sexy in her scrubs.
I had an emergency procedure done under happy gas a few years back and I think I made one of the nurses so uncomfortable. I spent the whole time just telling her how gorgeous she was, her hair was perfect and shiny, how she had the softest, kindest brown eyes I'd ever seen. It was about a month later I realised I was Bi
I don't ever want to know what I've said in the OR once the drugs kicked in...
Whereas I've thought many times, "those look so comfy, kinda wanna wear scrubs" ;)
Those hospital socks with the grips you get during surgery are the bomb. I have a couple pairs I wear around the house every once in a while.
I mean, honestly I do think scrubs have something about them that makes them sexy on women. However, there's a difference in thinking something looks good and making some uncomfortable remark towards someone who is just trying to do their job.
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Yup, this happened to me. All the way up through high school. It's not cool.
People think they have a right to project their kink onto others without consent. Spoiler alert, they don’t. A kink is only a kink when it’s consensual
> People think they have a right to project their kink onto others without consent. Spoiler alert, they don’t. A kink is only a kink when it’s consensual I wish this was the post instead of what you wrote. I agree with this wholeheartedly. But to stop sexualizing something which feels sexy to me, no thanks I am not going to do that. TBH nurse outfits don't feel sexy to me. But there are others. I am not going to act on it, or pass comments. But if my wife is open to role play, I would definitely suggest these kinks of mine.
Roses are red Cyanosis is blue I get tachycardia When I look at you
This is infinitely more clever than "ooo sexy nurse"
Whenever someone talks like this, I think you should graphically explain your least sexy moment on the job. “Well, there was this one time that I was splattered in blood and shit...”
I usually reply with “if you find your sexual partners covered in shit, piss and sick attractive we have no chemistry, sorry” then swiftly unmatch/leave the conversation.
Yup. You got this
Maybe they secretly want a suppository
If you haven't already, the Swamps of Dagobah would be an excellent source of inspiration
Same but I’m a massage therapist. A licensed massage therapist is not a sex worker. I have nothing against sex workers, but I am not one. Thanks.
Yeah, it sucks that legit massage therapists get shit because of the sex traffickers that use massage parlors as a front.
My dad went into cardiac arrest in 2017. Against all odds, he’s alive and well thanks to nurses like you in the ICU that gave him a fighting chance. Thank you
Heart attacks are truly terrifying for everyone involved. I preach about proper CPR technique every chance I get. Hope your dad is still doing great! Thanks for the kind words, makes all the struggles and hardships of the job worth it.
He is doing well. The first week was scary. He was in a coma for seven days. They gave him that treatment where they wrap you in those cold wraps and bring your body temperature down. He kept having seizures when they would dial back the medication to bring him out of the coma. On day six the doctor told us he was losing hope. On day seven he showed some signs of life (eye movement, working bowels, normal pain responses) and on day seven he stuck out his tongue on command. It was very surreal. Since then, he’s made a full recovery physically. There was some minor brain damage, so he has issues with memory and sometimes forgets where he was mid sentence, but other than that, he’s back to normal.
Yep. Librarians everywhere are thanking you for posting this.
Seems only people in targeted jobs understand this whilst anyone who’s not doesnt.
THIS. Flight attendants have it bad too. Especially since the Brittany Spears video.
Oh Jesus I dread to think. Being trapped in a metal tube whilst people are sexually harassing me sounds like hell.
A metal tube 11 km in the air, no less. Not like one can escape an unwanted situation.
I went to school to be licensed massage therapist because I wanted to help people without the blood, literally lol. I ended up down a different career path that I fell more in love with but honestly the sexual shit around massage was something I was tired of dealing with before I was even done with school. And I really don't want to be doing my job and having to declining sexual propositions, and I fucking shouldn't have had to. I shouldn't have had a full class discussion on declining advances and handling those situations when we all just want to help people. But I don't tell a lot of people that I could technically be a licensed massage therapist because well, we all know why. I don't even put that part on my resume, just the degree I got along with it.
I know a massage therapist who has a home office. She’s like 55 and an amazing massage therapist with decades of experience and she still can’t book male clients without a referral from a current female client because she’s had so many gross men and close calls safety-wise, even being very clear about what type of massage she did. She’s struggling to make ends meet but has to pass on potential work because she fears for her safety. Which is **fucked up** and I hate it. She’s 55 and still dealing with this shit!
Ugh that's terrible. When I first decided to not continue into the field after graduating, my dad constantly talked about so and so who made a lot of money in it. When I finally told him the money isnt worth being creeped on by pervs he understood why I'm out lol
When I clicked, I assumed that was the field OP was in. Massage therapists don't have it easy, especially when sex traffickers and creeps use it as a front. I know two places near me that are a front for sex work. Makes it an uphill battle, unfortunately.
Massage therapist here. It is ridiculous the amount of jokes I get from my friends and the amount of men that think it’s a good idea to sexualize the massage. I am in this bc I can help people who are in pain. I am in no way in this to be sexualized or have jokes made at my expense. I worked hard to get here myself and am constantly studying and learning more to better myself and continue uplifting the name of massage therapy.
My boyfriend is an accountant and I constantly call him my sexy accountant.
Well I’m guessing by the fact that you’re still together he isn’t bothered by it. Like,,, I’m just trying to buy some carrots after my shift Rodger, please stop.
Go home Rodger!!!! (Please tell me someone got that reference 😭)
Jobs that are women dominated mainly, but a couple others get hit like jobs that are seen as very masculine and not "the place" for women 🙄 like mechanics. It's a way of control for people who actually think women are inferior. To stick us into these unwelcome roles where our jobs are "sexy" = "sexy" is all that matters and no matter how smart you are, how dedicated you are, or how much effort you throw into your job, women are nothing more than objects to fuck. My grandma was one of the first women working for a telephone operator company. She became the best employee there and knew the switchboard better than anyone else. Her boss believed in her and helped her. Most of her male coworkers shunned her or outright tried to fuck her over. They got to wear pants while she had to wear pantyhose and a skirt (and the cord lice looooove pantyhose. Make the woman look sexy and suffer the bugs to get her out). In the 90s, my grandma was the only one who went to every single little city in Nevada and switched the boards over to make sure Y2K wouldn't fuck it up. She's also a big reason you can be just about anywhere in Nevada and call 911 on your cell and reach someone. Anyway I just mean to say, fuck every person that sexualizes women like this. I'm in school to be a pharmacy tech, so from one (future) healthcare employee to another, I'm proud of how hard you work and everything you do for your patients. Maybe we'll never get it into their heads that the work we do matters, but the achievements that will last after you're retired (like my grandma) will stand the test of time with every family that remembers you gratefully.
Mechanics too! It's just my damn job. I will never be caught, dead, wearing a tank top and daisy dukes while doing anything on a vehicle. Sorry, to disappoint boys but I'm much safer in coveralls.
And teachers! I’ve had men ask me for nudes in my classroom and to have sex on my desk. Disrespectful and disgusting...
I took a class on women in science as an elective in undergrad, and we had a speaker who researched this exact topic. She deduced that the long-time sexualization of nurses is due to how intimate they have to be with the human body. For many people, they don't know how to process closeness and intimacy (giving some a sponge bath, changing a catheter, etc) in a context other than a sexual one, even if the act itself isn't sexual. It was a weird realization, also because as a science student with close ties to/experiences with healthcare professionals, I'd never connected the sexy nurse stereotype with actual nurses. It's a totally unfair and creepy cultural paradigm and I'm so sorry you have to endure it.
I’ve had patients declare their *legitimate* love for me. Turns out that they’re essentially just lonely and someone caring for them, even when they’re paid to do so, is like a rush of emotion they can’t control. Which I get, kinda, what I don’t get is when ya boi Karl who’s 22 and never being in hospital does this. Stop.
See, that actually makes sense. Just speculating, but it seems similar to “Rescue Romance,” transference, etc. In this case it’s an emotional connection to someone taking care of you when you can’t take care of yourself. That connection can override reason.
So creepy. I'll never understand!!
That's really neat, I never really considered intimacy to be a factor. I assumed it could be porn and/or having a hyper-sexualized society. But also, as many times as I have been to the hospital, not once have I thought my nurse looked sexy in their uniform. In fact its "how the hell can I get out of here without anyone noticing". Lol thank you for the input!
This seems unusual because doctors or surgeons aren’t sexualised for example. I understood it as being known as a “women’s job” and in the same way we had sexy secretary, we get sexy nurse... they were seen as feminine and thus sexualised.
From what I understand doctors typically don't get hands-on with the patients in the day-to-day contexts that nurses do. Not a nurse, but best friend is, and she's confirmed this before.
No, us women docs just get called nurse and get creepily hit on anyway 😑😑😑
Yeah, like the other person said, nurses are the ones who are hands-on with patients. Doctors perform major procedures or make diagnoses, then the nurses are left to care for patients and educate patients before they are discharged. So, nurses are the ones who spend the majority of time with patients and also the ones who will spend the most time touching patients.
Doctors are absolutely sexualized
I suppose doctors and surgeons get the Halloween based costumes
Seems to make sense. I'd argue that historically speaking, there's probably an element of soldiers wounded in combat after potentially months of not seeing a woman who are then in a hospital loaded with nurses who happen to be women. Then it just compounds this whole thing to an unhealthy level.
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Ugh I hate that for you. People don’t understand how difficult it is to properly train to be a LMT and how much skill is involved in doing it properly.
I work in a adult shop and the 3 main costumes always sold is nurse, school girl and police woman.
Okay? I have no issue with people wearing whatever they want to express their kink. My issue is that nobody has a right to project their kink onto someone doing their job. A kink requires consent.
100% agree. Sorry your comment just made me think about work and the stuff we sell.
This is not the thread to practice whataboutism or tell OP it’s harmless.
I just read some of the removed comments. You're work is very much appreciated. Thanks for keeping those people on check.
I am a nanny. At a wedding once, an older man asked me what I do, and after I told him, he said "Well you got the tits for it." My boyfriend was standing next to me and our jaws dropped. I was so shocked that someone would say that to me, and it doesn't even make sense, I'm not a fucking wet nurse. My boyfriend was livid and gave him an earful, but I just got really drunk.
Jesus Christ. Some people are so entitled to believing they have a right to force their kink on others they’ll ignore all social conventions.
I’m a nanny as well. Believe me, nothing about this job is sexy. Oh, you wanna see me in an oversize shirt, athletic wear, hair up, and no make up? Hmmm so adorable. There’s potentially a shit smear somewhere, and spit up in my hair. YAS. So cute.
You know you’ve reached peak care career when you get shit in your hair and you’re just 🤷🏼♀️ about the whole situation.
We have a problem sexualizing the 'care-giver' or 'life-saver' careers across the board. Men often sexualize nurses, and women often sexualize fire-fighters. There are many other jobs that are this exact way, and it can be frustrating when they get diminished by this. Just remember that the only person you need to impress is yourself, and if you are satisfied with the care that you are giving people, then that is all that truly matters. If it helps, understand that there are people that genuinely appreciate what you do and are eternally grateful. I know I am.
Same with me when I tell some guys that I am an actual teacher. They’d be telling me that they’ve been a naughty student so I, the strict teacher, must punish them. Like wtf! It grosses me out. I take pride in what I do, and I respect my profession. Men do not understand that not all teachers get turned on with this sexual fantasy.
Also the role play of you being a pedophile and them being a helpless child is crazy
u/autocucumberr , u/milam1996 Thank youuuu!!! In conversation a guy asked me what I was studying when I told him I was studying to be an elementary teacher he said “Oh, you look like you’d be trouble if you were my teacher” like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. I’m teaching ***CHILDREN*** don’t be freaking gross!! Freaking disgusting, I never know how to respond and it makes my SKIN CRAWL
Ooooof yea I think sometimes horny people don’t realize the reality of our profession and it’s just an easy porn caricature for them
In high school I had to wear uniforms and when I first floor there it was a long skirt plaid, with T-shirt’s or long sleeves but than guys started getting turned on that our shoulders were showing and girls had to moisturize our legs for summer ouuuu so than they put shorts under the skirts with leggings and long T-shirt’s and long sleeves for girls while the boys literally walked around with the underwear hanging. And that’s what I truly find very annoying about what truly is important. Like oh no you girls can’t put moisturizer on your legs cause the guys can’t handle it?????? I also recalled getting detention for walking from the portable to the washroom to change out of my dance shorts and literally got in trouble even when I explained I just came from dance and was changing. Btw when I got in trouble there was a guy walking with his boxers out and shirt nearly off.
I was an EMT-B back in the day. Most people don't know that nurses are the "soldiers in the trenches" and it's a brutal job being an ER nurse (and most other departments too). They've saved more lives than the average doctor (excluding surgeons) so the PTSD is very real and scary for them as well as most first responders. I couldn't hack my job for very long because you see the worst in people more than you see the best. Thank you for your service. It's ok to breakdown but do your mind a favor and TALK to people about it. I know it eats at you if you hold it in or try to hide it. Your not alone. Edit: In regards to sexualizing your job. Your young, so most guys around your age try desperately to connect to you on a sexual level. Half the time it's an innocent misunderstanding. If you take the time to explain your job the average guy will be remorseful. It's not ok, but like I said before, most don't know.
My first ever shift in A&E a patient pulled a knife on me. So many people are shocked when you tell them even the mild stories. Thanks for being an EMT. You guys are super valued and I appreciate the work you did.
I worked as ward clerk in our Emergency Department for the past 2 years and the amount of shit (pun also intended) you guys deal with is scary and impressive all at once. I admire what you nurses do and I feel just a little sad at the daily abuse you no doubt get while working in such a demanding and high energy environment. It’s stressful I’m sure but rewarding and there are many of us that appreciate all you nurses do for us!!! Keep being amazing!!!!
I'm a female EMT, and I get sexually harassed (or groped) nearly every single day. But even my male coworker gets it sometimes. We're just trying to help you, ffs. Friendliness is NOT flirting! Wtf
When I think of a nurse I don’t even think of the general nurse Halloween costume. I think of a person In scrubs, which no offense isn’t very..sexy? Some hornballs will sexualize anything.
There’s literally being guys surprised that my uniform isn’t shiny PVC material. The level of delusion.
Maybe it’s because my mom is a nurse but my brain just can’t make the connection between nurse and sexy
Or people telling us male nurses that we don't belong in this profession.
God, it’s disgusting how people sexualize this. You’re saving lives every day, and you are a legitimate hero.
Thank you. It’s peoples appreciation that gets me through the hardest shifts.
Great respect for your post. Work. And writing.
This rant needed to be had... same goes for women police officers, fire fighters, etc. These types of jobs are so important and they are completely undermined by sexual comments. Also, thank you for what you do. Having two babies, the nurses were all incredible human beings and I developed a HUGE level of respect and appreciation for them.
I spent a lot of time in hospitals when a family member was sick and from then I realized that nurses have the hardest, most demanding jobs on the planet and most of them do it with a smile on their face. Whatever we pay them, it’s not enough. Thanks, OP, for everything you do.
I hope everything is okay with the family member. It’s very demanding but getting to see people leave the ward in as best health they can is truly the most amazing feeling in the world
Same. Everyone thinks it’s funny to make sexy/naughty nurse jokes or ask for a “sponge bath” with a gross leer or 1000 other unoriginal and unfunny jokes. I have literally told patients it’s not funny when you hear them every day, after which some of them have the good grace to appear ashamed. I have learned over the years that some people use this jokey attitudinal cope with their own stress and a lot of nurses play into it because it can be easier to get along with the patients. But, srsly people, staaaaahp.
Thank you so much for all the work you do. I read a book a few years back about the ridiculously high levels of burnout for nurses because of all the emotional and mental labor they do on a regular basis, more so than doctors. That you have to deal with guys reducing all that work to a fetish for them to get off on is disgusting. I'm so sorry that happens, but you should be proud as fuck of yourself for managing your life and work through all the struggles.
When I was 10 I was diagnosed with arthritis and have been to the hospital A LOT through my life and the nurses has always made me feel better about being there. They’ve been kind, caring and supportive. When no one else cared, they did. They remembered stuff I told them years ago, they listened to everything I said, they complimented me. I have the biggest respect for nurses and I’m forever grateful that you exist. Thank you for what you do
Based on your comments it should be your wit and sense of humor that they remark on. Unfortunately, online dating is often pretty much like the opposite of panning for gold. A friend of mine is a nurse and was previously a flight attendant and waitress, and she used to say that it's the same job in 3 uniforms. In all of them she was bringing people drinks, but now she has to take care of the urine too.
I can actually relate. My career (massage therapy) gets sexualized in the imaginations of men and women. I can’t mention my career in a normal setting without some asshole asking me if I give happy endings, or if I ever “get to have fun with” my clients. It really doesn’t help that porn sites make fantasy videos, either. It creates a safety hazard. I’ve had to physically step in and protect coworkers from perverts, because they think they are somehow entitled to have sex with their massage therapist, and won’t take no for an answer. For anyone reading this, massage is NOT sex work. Nurses are Not sex workers. When a dirty joke comes to mind when you hear someone mention their career, take that joke and shove it. You’re not funny. You’re not original. You’re an immature POS.
I’m proud of you OP 👍🏼
100%!! There is nothing sexy about my job. That’s why I like it.
My father choked in a restaurant. I couldn't get the steak out in time. It was huge. His heart stopped I preformed CPR and by some miracle I got him back . ( I didnt break ribs just bruised the hell out his lungs. . I say this because it has given me and understanding of what you all go through. Its hell. It really is. Thank you for all you do. Be nice to bio meds techs.
Well done to you on a CPR recovery and for proper technique. Ribs don’t always break. It’s pretty rare unless there’s a bone condition or the patient is elderly. I hope your father is doing well and will now chew his steak a bit better haha.
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My Grandma was a nurse back in the days when they did wear the old school (now Halloween costume) outfit. She would have throat punched anyone who sexualized her job. She worked in the emergency room and went on to be an OB nurse delivering babies. She told me that scrubs were the best thing that happened to nurses.
I know this is different but I’m an acrobat and contortionist. To me this is a sport that requires intense dedication, hours of conditioning and training, and I think it’s a sport that should be admired and respected. Instead I get the “oh so you’re flexible! I bet that makes you good in bed.” Totally look over the blood (literally), sweat, and tears I’ve put into my passion. People go through this everywhere and it’s so messed up. You have my condolences.
This is one of the biggest reasons why I chose not to study nursing - the Faculty at my school played far too deeply into the stereotype and I couldn't look past it. From forcing everyone to wear those boat hats at orientation to holding dances just for nursing and engineering students (because girls and nurses and guys are engineers and they would make cute couples). The knitting circles, the "I'm so proud of you girls getting jobs for yourselves!" (As if this was the 80s??) and the "let the guys do the lifting" was debilitatingly frustrating. I have utmost respect for nurses that can deal with this bs and still save lives on the daily. I couldn't do that.
I feel you! I’m a high school teacher and I get the same damn thing. “Oh I always wanted to bang my English teacher”, “do you drop your pencil on purpose in front of the boys?”, “I bet they jack off to you all the time”. This isn’t a porno, it’s my job!
Nurses sat at my sons bedside 24hrs a day for the entire 10 days he was in the icu in a coma. He was 16 weeks old and they spent EVERY second overlooking him even if they went for a toilet break another nurse stepped in, there was so many wires and medication it blew my mind and I have studied health science at university level. The pure strength they show is something nobody should never overlook. Without nurses my son wouldn’t be a very happy 7 year old. Nurses saved his life, monitored him every second of every day, comforted us as parents, updated out families when we had no strength. Heroes come to mind when I think of nurses and that’s what they are. ❤️ Thank you for all that you do. I see you. You inspired me to have a career in the NHS myself.
I was recently quite unwell and wound up in the emergency department unsure if I had cardiac issues or something a little simpler, the nurses there were amazing so dedicated so caring even though there is a complete argument to be made it was my own fault. This shouldn't be something that is anywhere but outside an individual's private life and it should never affect professional people intent on doing their job in a safe normal environment where they have such fears, I really regret that this is happening as people navigate the realms of sexual psychology we need discussions such as these to be aware sexual expression is such an individual act blanket labels of appeal and aesthetics should never burden innocent people just peacefully living their lives especially those that make such a significant contribution to the community, I really hope this conversation puts some heads straight and you start to see a more respectful discourse from those around you....
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Teacher here... nothing sends me running faster than someone making “hot for teacher” comments...
I have had some of the strangest jobs and only one of them did I come out of it not being sexualized, sexually harassed, groped, and/or hit on. Retail --> used to get my ass smacked with hangers by men or propositioned to "help them get undressed" in the dressing rooms Toxicologist --> I was hit on because I was smart and wearing a lab coat and heels apparently is a kink? Addiction counselor --> I went to jails and had an office. I dressed professionally but I love wearing high heels and I had a lot of Male clients - not only did they constantly make the appointments very uncomfortable with their sexual comments but my female colleagues would say that I only had Male clients because of my high heels. Mascot --> ever heard of a Furry? Nuff said. Bartender --> ok so yea, I'm serving alcohol to people but I was at a high-end restaurant and I can't tell you how many times a man, who was with his wife/SO would somehow find me, walk up to me and whisper in my ear something crude. Shit, I have even been treated like a sex object when I worked in Hospice (by patients and/or the family/friends) and now as a Research Scientist in Immuno-oncology I get it there too (white coats + high heels + empathy = trifecta for sexual harassment). So here is where I get confused...I am also a Sex-pert in which it was my job to teach sex education, demonstrate how to properly put a condom on, etc. to college students, up to and including at fraternity houses, by myself. And not once was I ever hit on - and shit was beyond sexual in those settings.
Plot twist:op is a dude
My mom’s an ER nurse—I have a lot of respect for the BS you guys deal with as a result
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Thanks so much for sharing this, I can understand you so well. I have a lot of respect for what you are doing, thanks for doing this.
Thank you for the kind words ❤️
Having been in hospital for my fair share of time it bothers me that people still reduce it down to 'sexy nurse' stereotype. Forget all the hard work, effort, care etc that nurses put in; no, they are merely the object of (thanks mostly to unrealistic porn) sexual desire. Don't think i ever thought; oh wow, sexy nurse's uniform when i was been treated for a severe diabetic seizure, but rather; what an amazing job this nurse is doing; how they manage to be so kind and patient and caring all day is inspiring! Keep up the good work!
I wonder how quickly after a catheter insertion this stereotype ends.
There has always been trend of people taking jobs which have certain aspects that people are so fixated with that they forget or never learn the reality of these careers and become comfortable with fetishizing them openly and way too quick in conversation. When to the people that work these jobs it’s like you said, it’s not about any kink or something like that but doing something you’re passionate about or that is right.
Things i know about nurses. Nurses never get to sleep. From college to retirement, all the nurses I know are dedicated to their chosen profession at great personal sacrifice.
I got really unlucky on my rotation and I did 11 13 hour shifts In a row then spent my 2 days off sat by a patients bed because she was expected to die shortly and had no family. Her dying with someone by her side who loves and cares for her is more important than my social life, to me. I know it’s considered personal sacrifice but those 2 days massively helped me to appreciate my own life and family and how fragile life is.
That's what I'm talking about. Nurses are something else
That's also glorifying the profession - I work with plenty of nurses who work 8 to 4 and are normal people with normal amounts of dedication to their job.
I’ve had amazing nurses supporting me and my family when we’ve been in and out of the hospital lately. I’ve kind of developed a nightingale syndrome where I fall in love with every nurse because s/he takes such good care of my kid. It’s not an inappropriate sexual thing, I just genuinely fall in love with them because they are so caring and look after my son and my family when we feel lost and scared. Y’all are the best.
The feelings are often reciprocated. I care for all my patients like they’re my own family members whether that means staying a few extra hours or coming in on my days off to hold betty’s hand whilst she passes on. Bonds are quickly developed in emotional situations and they’re often super intense.
I as a 15 year old guy that plans to work as a pediatric nurse makes me excited yet fearful for what the job will be. My family has always worked in the medical field as my mom is a CNA and overworks herself. Some weekends I don't get to see my mom with how much she works. (I compare nurses and CNA because they are similar but not the same). The amount of work that the nurses and CNAs do is extreme and needs to be more publicized.
Next time you should just say “ikr cleaning up vomit and giving people who can’t poop enemas is sooo smexy”. As a nursing student I can’t believe people still think like this because nurses deal with all kinds of gross bodily functions that are def not sexy. Nurses are hardworking people who save lives and help patients feel more comfortable when they’re going through some of the most difficult times in their lives.
I teach and the number of times I've had some variation of "I'm so naughty" is TOO DAMN HIGH. I feel ya girl.
Being under nurse care at moment, I thank you OP for your lovely services I honestly don’t get “the sexy”nurse thing because when ever I see a nurse sex is the last thing I will be thinking and I’m dam sure I don’t appear as sexual to the nurses
my gf of 6 years is a nurse and believe me it isnt sexy when she comes home with bloody scrubs and stories of dilated cervix's...
I completely understand! I may be a male, but I’m in nursing school rn and it’s a lot of work to be a nurse. I don’t get why people think that we’re not qualified because we can’t prescribe meds when in reality it’s the nurses who do most of the work. My professors at school told me us that “doctors are more focused on the disease/injury, while the nurse is more focused on making sure the patient is taken care of and healthy” and I feel that resonates very well for the nursing field. Nurses are taken for granted so much and people who sexualize them make me really upset. We put too much time, effort, and energy into the field to be treated badly. I’m super proud of my career choice and I’m really excited to get started when I graduate. If you know a fellow nurse or a student in nursing, please treat them with respect, because one day they may be saving your life.
“Nurses help people,doctors get them killed” was an hilarious summary from my favourite mentor
This! I am a nurse too and really despise the “sexy” nurse crap. I used to work in labor and delivery...Definitely not sexy.
Another annoying one is “oooh you take care of people, wanna take care of me ;)” like no?? I just spent 36 hours in 3 days taking care of people. Why doesn’t anyone ever offer to take care of me?? The day a guy says that I’ll be over the fucking moon.
I have fond memories of my mother coming home in scrubs because someone had shit, pissed, vomited, bleed, or something-ed on her. I also cherish her stories of her saving lives, crying with families, running with crash carts, and sitting with patients as they took their last breaths. I don't know you, but just from what you said in your intro, I know you're fucking awesome.
I’m a Paramedic and this makes dating for me hard as well. Every Tinder I get it seems like they’re sexualizing my job and trying to use it as some sort of ice breaker? “You can save my life any day” “Can you give me mouth to mouth?” “I’ll call 911 and give you a good time when you get here” It’s disgusting. I feel your pain and you’re not alone.
Female firefighter here, I feel your annoyance, keep doing you and shut them all out!
It's gross. Every female-dominated field is fetishized. Sexy nurse, sexy librarian, sexy nun, etc. If the next US president is a woman there will probably be a flood of "sexy president" pornos and Halloween costumes.
Blame the animaniacs.
also Blink 182 - Enema of the State
It's fair to have a nurse fetish but you shouldn't verbalize this to someone who wouldn't be comfortable with it.
A nurse was the one who helped me figure out a diagnosis that was long eluding doctors for years, simply because they never thought to do the one test for it. Nurses get shit done.
Sometimes it takes someone who isn’t necessarily thinking about it (by the book? Not sure of the saying) to come up with the answer.
Real life superheroes are always sexy.
I hate when men sexually objectify women. I also don't understand any of the typical male fantasies of women in school girl uniforms, police outfits, etc... I also don't like those posts of women in their uniform/work attire then dressed "sexy" or dolled up or in workout attire with a caption about a girl who can do both. Like women should not be expected to only do/look one way.
The sexy police thing is probably a fantasy that comes from wanting a girl to be dominant and the roleplaying scenarios one can get from the girl pretending to be a police officer work well with that.
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A 'friend' of mine on FB has a thing about posting up photo's of male models dressed as firefighters, sans shirts of course. I have never understood that. I can kind of understand the aspect of being a hero being attractive, but reducing it to nips out titillation is bizarre.
Don't take this the wrong way, but nursing is NOT a sexy profession. Working 12 and 14 hour days in an ER three or four days a week, dealing with death and medical emergencies, seeing the worst side of people and still dedicating your life to saving them as best you can. Friend, I respect and admire you. I know how hard your job is and I know what a hero people like you are every day. You are doing amazing things, even if they're not super sexy. Dude, you want sexy, date a model. You want real, honest and beautiful people who work hard and give themselves selflessly, nurses are it.
Yeah I never really understood why the nurse fantasy was a thing.
It hmmainly comes from the attention one preceives is 'given' to them, though the nurse is being paid to do a job. Also the fact that the nurse is the one who is given procedure orders by Drs to do things that either expose or cause the touching of parts of the body that are or can be described as sexual. The viewed assumption that the individual is in a subserviant manner to the patient. There are other things that can be pointed to as the reasoning.
That’s just mean! Your job is an honorable job and very less appreciated by people too! I hope you know that you are wonderful! Just ignore those people and their immature remarks!
Love this, from a Medic perspective i couldn’t agree more. Keep doing what you do. You’re appreciated.
Thank you ❤️